How to Attract Friends

The thought of having to 'attract friends' need not sound as seedy or perverse as you may think.

The act of finding friends and interacting with others is a basic human instinct, and it's important to think carefully about how you present yourself to others in order to attract their attention in a positive and memorable way.

It might sound  a little obvious but the biggest factor in attracting new friends is by talking to people.

Now there's no need to go overboard and morph into a public transport weirdo, but starting a conversation with at least one new person everyday is a good way to practice your personal skills and to relax into the habit of attracting friends.

Conversation

Your choice of conversation can be as interesting or banal as you choose; believe it or not, the weather is always a good starting point. Current affairs might be a good way 'in', as might be what was on the television the previous night. Avoiding anything too personal is a golden rule.

No stranger wants to hear about your recent ailments, or more to the point, you probably don't want to hear about theirs.

To cheek kiss, or not to cheek kiss

When you're attracting potential friends, a good introduction is key. Now this will depend solely on the situation – do you shake hands? Kiss them on the cheek? Politely nod? The key is to steer clear of anything that will make you look remotely geeky or desperate: definitely no nervous waves, comedy hand shakes or worst of all... the dreaded 'thumbs up' gesture!

Remember to approach an introduction with a relaxed yet decisive manner – this includes both voice and body language. Know what you're going to talk about beforehand to avoid awkward silences and whatever you do, don't forget their name!

Body language

If you're keen to attract friends you need to think carefully about your body language and how you would like others to perceive you. Someone who has their eyes on the floor, shoulders hunched and arms crossed is not exactly screaming 'talk to me!'.

Eye contact is the key for attracting new friends, as is a comfortable stance. When you attract a potential friend, remember to maintain this dialogue of body  language by politely nodding while they're talking to show you're interested and by smiling warmly and subtly so they don't think you've somewhere else to be.

Remember the second you leave your front door you have the opportunity to attract new friends – don't waste it!

A person warm and friendly to those around them has the best chance of meeting new people and making new friends.